Parenting

Children always know more than they can put into words: that distinguishes them from us adults, who usually put into words so much more than we know.

Parenting should come naturally to all parents but unfortunately, we are bombarded with so much information and advice in today's media dominated world, that very often we lose our way. Today's parents have difficult job to do, instilling values whilst beating back the many insidious evils like insecurity, fear worry and hasitation that surround their children in this modern world.

With a little awareness and effort we can give our children the best in their life a feeling of self-worth and a feeling that every onstage is put in their paths only to be conquered.

What the children need from there parents who are willing to understand what their behaviour is trying to say. Children often haven't the language to express their worries and fears. Instead they use challenging behaviours sometime, to say what is going on inside them. We need clean insights into ordinary childhood patterns including sibling rivalry and problems brought home from school.

We the parents need perfect children. Do the children also need perfect parents?

It has been said that the first rule of medicine is to do no harm. The first rule of communicating with children is the same. There are all kinds of verbal pitfalls that can build roadblocks and prevent parents and teens from understanding each other.

What the parent need is to choose, what to say, how to say it, when to say it and more importantly decide when to just listen.

Despite communication frustrations parents have to keep it up realising that talking does have an impact, even when it doesn't seem working. The parents are engaged in an exciting exchange of ideas, values, hopes and dreams with a young person who is searching for support not condemnation. The parents have to provide their children the gift of a listening ear and the legacy of godly counsel.